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Issue 17 - July 2009

Protect Your Child from Being Bullied or Becoming a Bully

Many of us grew up in schools where we witnessed bullying. Popular teen movies often poke fun at this problem. But, if you’re involved in school bullying – either physical or emotional, either in perso n or online – you know it’s no laughing matter.

Almost 30 percent of teens in the United States are estimated to be involved in school bullying as either a bully, a target of bullying, or both. In a recent national survey of students in grades 6 to 10, 13 percent reported bullying others, 11 percent reported being the target of school bullies, and another 6 percent said they bullied others and were bullied themselves.

If you’re a parent, watch for signs that your child may be the victim of bullying or may even be the one doing harm.

Warning signs that a child is being bullied:
  • Comes home with torn, damaged, or missing pieces of clothing or other belongings.
  • Has unexplained cuts or bruises.
  • Has few, if any friends.
  • Seems afraid of going to school or taking part in activities with peers.
  • Takes a long, “illogical” route when walking to or from school.
  • Has lost interest in school or suddenly begins to do poorly in school.
  • Appears sad, moody, teary, or depressed when he or she comes home.
  • Complains frequently of headaches, stomachaches, or other physical ailments.
  • Has trouble sleeping or has frequent bad dreams.
  • Experiences a loss of appetite.
  • Appears anxious and/or suffers from low self-esteem.
Advice for parents of a child being bull ied:
  • Don’t ignore it. Too often parents believe kids will work things out on their own. If the problem is ignored, your child’s self-esteem will likely become unhealthy.
  • Believe what your child tells you. This will help your child trust that you are able to help him with his problem.
  • Let your child know that he is not alone. Most children have to deal with some type of bullying behavior at one time or another. Reassure your child that he is not the problem.
  • If your child is being threatened in a physical or illegal way at school, report the problem.
Common characteristics of children who bully:
  • Impulsive, hot-headed, dominant.
  • Easily frustrated.
  • Lack empathy.
  • Have difficulty following rules.
  • View violence in a positive way.
Advice for parents of a bully:
  • Make it clear that you take bullying seriously and will not tolerate this behavior.
  • Develop clear and consistent rules within your family for your child’s behavior.
  • Praise and reinforce your child for following rules and use non- physical, non-hostile consequences for rule violations.
  • Share your concerns with your child’s teacher, counselor, and/or principal. Work together to send clear messages to your child that the bullying must stop.
  • If you and/or your child need additional help, talk with a school counselor and/or mental health professional.
At school, children are entitled to courteous and respectful treatment. Educators have a duty to ensure that students have a safe learning environment. Here is what you should expect of your child’s school.
  • School staff should investigate immediately. Give the school reasonable time to investigate and hear both sides of the story After investigating, they should inform you as to what they plan to do about it.
  • Staff should meet with your child to learn about the bullying that he or she has experienced. They should develop a plan to help keep your child safe, and they should be watchful for any future bullying. Educators should assure your child that they would work hard to see that the bullying stops.
  • School staff should never have a joint meeting with your child and the child who bullied them. This could be very embarrassing and intimidating for your child. They should not refer the children to mediation. Bullying is a form of victimization, not a conflict. It should not be mediated.
  • School personnel should meet with the children who are suspected of taking part in the bullying. They should make it clear to these children that bullying is against school rules and will not be tolerated. If appropriate, they should administer consequences (such as a loss of recess privileges) to the child who bullied and notify their parents.
  • If bullying continues, write to the school’s principal or administrator, and include evidence from your notes to back up your complaint. Putti ng a complaint in writing is important so there is a record of your concern.


Spotlight on America's Best High Schools
No. 50 Wyoming High School Welcomes Community Involvement

The parent section of Wyoming High School’s Web site begins, “You are your child's first and most influential teacher.”

Parents are a indeed a major influence at this public school, which ranked No. 50 on the U.S. News’ 2009 America’s Best High School list produced with SchoolMatters.com.

To support the high level of parent involvement, leaders of Wyoming High School do20everything they can to keep caregivers engaged. Examples include an online guide called “How to Communicate with the District,” a digital ProgressBook for parents to check on a child’s grades and homework information anytime and anywhere, monthly newsletters and frequent principal meetings.

According to Principal Aaron Marshall, community is what makes this school successful. “I’ve worked at other districts, and when I started here I could sense the culture of excellence among the students, the parents, the community, and the staff.”

Part of this commitment to excellence can be attributed to the highly educated, professional suburban community just outside of Cincinnati, Ohio, which is home to major employers General Electric and Proctor & Gamble.

“Some of our families come to this school so well traveled and educated. They seek out ways to help the district succeed. They volunteer their time, their talents and their dollars,” Principal Marshall said. “At the same time, we have a highly diverse population, which also makes us special.”

Despite being a suburban school, which carries with it misperceptions, Wyoming High School’s student body is diverse with students from different socio-economic and religious backgrounds. To promote this diversity, the school has a number of student clubs aimed at building tolerance and acceptance.

This acceptance feeds into the culture of educating the “whole child.” In addit ion to offering a number of AP classes, Wyoming High School places a large emphasis on fine arts, music and drama.

“While many other schools are cutting back on the arts, we’re making it a priority,” said Principal Marshall. “Out of approximately 54 teachers, three are full-time arts teachers, and many of our students are state and national award winners.”

In addition, Wyoming High School is located near the University of Cincinnati, and many students take advantage of post-secondary credit options there.

This mix of community engagement and commitment to excellence has made a big impact on student achievement: nearly 100 percent of students pass state tests in reading and math and 96 percent of graduates move on to college education.

“I think it’s so important to share success stories like Wyoming’s so we can all learn from each other,” Principal Marshall said. “If I could bottle up the secret potion, I would, but in our case, I think it’s a simple combination of tremendous support from the community, passion from our staff and dedication from our students.”

You can view the entire list of the 2009 Best High Schools by visiting www.schoolmatters.com/americasbest . Or, for more information about Wyoming High School, visit www.wyomingcityschools.org. Are you a parent of student at Wyoming High School? Please take a moment to rate or review this school at schoolmatters.com/schools.aspx/q/page=prvs/sid=61610!

Rate Your Child’s School

Now that your child has completed the school year, take a moment to tell others what you think about that school on SchoolMatters.com. Your first-hand feedback can help other parents learn more. Just search for your school by name and state. Once you’re on your school’s profile, you can rate it on a five-star scale, leave comments, and post photos.

And, if your child is transitioning to a new school in the fall, don’t forget to look up what others have to say about it!
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