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WHEN YOU ARE AFRAID.....


Ladies, you may sometimes worry or become anxious over the safety of your
husband while he is on duty. When that happens, I want you to QUICKLY turn to
the Word of God (the Bible)! The Word of God is very specific and all-inclusive
about God's protection for your officer. Consider this:

Psalm 18:29 "For by Thee I can run upon a troop; and by my God I can leap over a
wall."
***God enables your husband to prevail when he is outnumbered, and to scale a
wall during a footchase!

Isaiah 52:12b "The Lord will go before you, and the God of Israel will be your
rear guard."
***God is your husband's point man, the first to enter a high risk situation. 
God is also his rear guard, the last man on the entry team who watches the
team's back to make certain no threats sneak up. Do you have a visual picture of
this in your mind ladies??!! This is a verse you want to pray for your
husband... "Father, be his point man and rear guard today!"

Psalm 91:5-7 "You will not be afraid of the terror by night, or of the arrow
that flies by day; of the pestilence that stalks in the darkness, or of the
destruction that lays waste at noon. A thousand may fall at your side, and ten
thousand at your right hand, but it shall not approach you."
***God is with your husband on EVERY shift, regardless of day or night! And even
if death and destruction are all around him, God's protection surrounds him!

Psalm 91:11 "He will give His angels charge concerning you, to guard you in all
your ways."
***Angels are dispatched by God to be your husband's backup! Picture him
surrounded by warrior angels! He's never alone!

Psalm 91:15 He will call upon Me, and I will answer him. I will be with him in
trouble. I will rescue him and honor him."
***When your husband gets into a dangerous situation, God will answer his calls
for help (and your calls for help for your husband)! God is his rescuer!

Isaiah 30:21 "And your ears will hear a word behind you, 'This is the way, walk
in it' whenever you turn to the right or to the left."
***God will guide your husband's steps, even when he goes into unknown
situations, because God knows what's up ahead!


Ladies, these scriptures should have you shouting for joy! Pray the above
scriptures as prayers, inserting your husband's name! Pray with confidence and
let your heart be at peace!
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HOW'S YOUR LOVE LIFE?

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast,
it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not
easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight
in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always
trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails."
(1Corinthians 13:4-8 NIV)


Instead of resolutions this year, I sensed God showing me a "theme"
for the year. A very basic, but powerful theme! LOVE!

When asked what the greatest commandment was, Jesus (in Matthew 22:36-
39) said it was to love God and to love your neighbor as yourself. He
said that the entire law hinges on these two commands! So loving
God's way must be incredibly important and powerful!

Are you loving your husband in the way that God wants you to love
him? Turn to 1Corinthians 13 above for your guide. You'll find that
nowhere does it say that love is just a mushy good feeling. Instead,
the God kind of love is a choice, a decision, a commitment, and an
action!

You see ladies, if love were only a good feeling, no marriage could
survive! Especially in the law enforcement profession! It's a tough
profession to be married to! Love goes much deeper than feelings.

You CHOOSE to watch how you use your words when your hubby comes home
after a bad day on duty. You DECIDE not to be angry when he gets
called in on an emergency. You make a DECISION to stay faithful
during times when you're lonely and aren't able to see as much of
each other. You COMMIT to putting disagreements behind you when they
have been settled rather than bringing them up over and over again.
You PROTECT your marriage and your husband by not speaking ill of
him. Your ACTIONS are kind and patient and not self-seeking.

Of course there's a place for warm feelings in love! And those
feelings are pleasant and comforting and necessary! Just don't allow
negative feelings to control your marital decisions or how you act!
Love the God way, whether you feel like it or not!

PRAYER: Father, help these ladies to make the DECISION to love their
husbands in the God kind of way! Help their CHOICES and ACTIONS to
convey their love!  In Jesus' name, amen.

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Every year at Christmas, I send out this special poem that I wrote in
2001. The message is one of God's love, support, and protection for
His peace officers! Be sure your husband sees it!

Thank YOU for being the strength and support behind your husband's
badge! He needs you!!

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and subscription info be left attached. Enjoy!
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A PEACE OFFICER'S CHRISTMAS

'Twas the night before Christmas, and all through the streets,
not a person was stirring, 'cept an officer on the beat.
As he quietly patrolled the town with great care,
children and parents slept peacefully there.

The officer was clad in his blues and his vest,
gun on his hip, always looking his best.
He'd just pulled aside for a quick bite to eat,
When all of a sudden, out on the street,

A bright light appeared from out of nowhere,
He shielded his eyes from the brilliant glare.
'Twas an angel of the Lord at the squad's rear,
He smiled and spoke, "Dear Officer, don't fear."

"I've been sent by God with a message for you
who faithfully serve while wearing the blue.
He wants you to know He loves you all,
He's pleased with the way you've answered His call.

"To protect and serve others, so selfless you've been,
Your bravery and kindness have known no end.
Even in tragedy, when nights became long,
You've helped countless strangers by being strong.

"God sees your heart, the joy and the pain,
He knows the profession can often bring strain.
So he sent me here to let you know,
That as you patrol, He goes where you go.

"As you protect others, your Father protects you,
His angels go with you, His Spirit does, too.
No bullet too fast, no bad guy too strong,
I'm sent to make sure that your life will be long.

"So fear not the night, and fear not the day,
fear not the threats that might come your way.
I'm sent to accompany you on your beat,
There's not one moment you're alone on the street."

The officer sat stunned by the love of His God,
He bowed his head, with a tear gave a nod.
As the officer said thank you, the angel took flight,
"God's got your back, carry on, and goodnight."
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BALANCE, BALANCE, BALANCE

"The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish
one tears hers down."
Prov. 14:1 (NIV)

Greetings, ladies! I bet you have wondered if I was gone for good!
No, I just needed to take a break from anything unnecessary and focus
on the things that needed my immediate attention. Today's devotional
runs along those lines. If you've ever been at the point of sheer
exhaustion -- at the place where autopilot kicks in and you just
barely get through your days without collapsing -- then you know what
I'm talking about!

God never designed you to be superwomen. He is all about balance. You
are not meant to live your lives eternally sleep deprived and
chronically stressed. I've been thinking about how so many of you
have to function like a single parent. Especially when hubby has to
work OT, or off-duty gigs, or when he works odd shifts. And again
with the upcoming holidays when you have to do so many things without
him.

If the stress level is high and the fatigue level is not far behind,
GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK! Seriously! Decide what is absolutely necessary
and let the rest go for awhile! It can be resumed later if needed!

Your family, your spiritual life, and your health should be at the
top of your list! Make time for family and make memories! Limit the
amount of activities your kids are involved in to keep it manageable.
If you do volunteer work, keep it to a reasonable amount. Learn to
say NO when you need to! Allow yourself time for devotions/prayer and
exercise. Take naps if needed! Heck, I took 4 consecutive days this
summer and just slept!

I want you to enjoy the journey of life, ladies. That's hard to do if
you aren't taking care of yourselves! As a family, pray and then
evaluate where your time is spent. Make adjustments if needed! It's
all about balance!

PRAYER: Father, you give wisdom in all things, even in our day to day
comings and goings! Give these women wisdom as they plan their daily
schedules and activities! Show them how to successfully balance their
lives so that their families can enjoy this journey of life
together!  In Jesus' name, amen.
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EASTER THOUGHTS

"For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that
whoever believes in Him should not perish, but have eternal life. For
God did not send the Son into the world to judge the world, but that
the world should be saved through Him." (John 3:16-17, NAS)

I was thinking today about the reason God sent Jesus to this earth to
die on the cross. The Bible says that it was because God LOVES us and
wanted to SAVE us. On that note, I want to share some thoughts.  :)

***God LOVES you! Remind yourself not to think of God as a cop on the
corner waiting to bust you the first time you mess up! Law
enforcement families sometimes have an "enforcement" mentality about
spiritual things. Jesus came to redeem and restore, not to cuff-n-
stuff!

***God loves your husband, too, and He is your husband's protector!
Remember that when you are afraid for his safety! Read Psalm 91 and
apply that to your husband's protection!

***Again, God loves your husband! If he isn't walking with the Lord,
don't bug him about it... PRAY FOR HIM and LOVE HIM! A praying wife
will loosen the bondage that Satan has on her husband!

***God loves your children! He never sleeps! He is watching over them
even when you cannot! Pray and believe God for their protection!

***Again, God loves your children! If any of them have not come to
know Jesus as their Lord and Savior, or if they have strayed from
what they have been taught, PRAY AND BELIEVE that they will come to
their senses! A praying mother will change the lives of her children!!

***All throughout the Bible, God says He is your redeemer and
restorer! If your marriage is in trouble, if your finances are
failing, if your health is compromised, if your mind is troubled...
ask God to redeem and restore these things! THAT IS PART OF WHY HE
SENT JESUS!!

A very happy Resurrection Day to you all!!

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OFF WITH THE OLD, ON WITH THE NEW!

"...be reNEWed in the spirit of your mind" Ephesians 4:23
"...put on the NEW self..." Ephesians 4:24
"...forgetting what lies behind and reaching FORWARD to what lies
AHEAD." Philippians 3:13
"...Behold, I will do something NEW..." Isaiah 43:19

Happy New Year, ladies!! This is the time of year when many of us are
rethinking our lives and making changes! God is all about making
things new and looking with hope to the future!

"Resolutions" can be a good thing, as long as your goal isn't to
overhaul your whole life all at once! Choosing overwhelming goals
will only guarantee failure, so I recommend choosing just two small
changes that, over time, will make a significant impact on your life.
Small changes will actually be the most lasting because they are
easier to become habit, and easier to get back to if you stray from
them!

If you're not sure where to start, I have a suggestion! Consider
these two "resolutions" (I prefer the word "goals"):

1. Choose one thing that will improve your own PERSONAL well-being.
Your life as a police wife can often leave you running the show at
home and possibly not leave a lot of time to take care of YOU! You
could schedule a daily 15 minute walk, begin a skin care program,
take an online class that interests you, work on a favorite hobby
once a week, have lunch with a friend weekly, or start working out
once a week and add days over the months,... the list is endless!

2. Choose one thing that will improve your marriage! Law enforcement
marriages are at a high risk. They take extra attention to thrive! If
your husband is in a place where he is willing to make a marriage
goal WITH you, then by all means go for it! Plan a "date night" once
or twice a month, attend a marriage retreat or Bible Study together,
take a 20 minute walk together everyday, or plan 15 minutes a day of
time to reconnect. If you don't think he'd be into
making "relationship goals", then make one for yourself that will
enhance your marriage! Commit to praising him at least once a day,
pray specifically for him 10 minutes each day, cook a favorite meal
of his once a week, plan and initiate a romantic time of love-making
every week, or surprise him with a love note in his lunch or squad
bag periodically. You don't have to tell him it's a New Year's goal,
just bless him with whatever you decide to do!

Remember, small things done regularly make for successful longterm
habits! Have a successful, goal-fulfilled year!!

PRAYER: Father, bless these ladies in a special way this year! Guide
them in deciding which goals to make, and help them to accomplish
them! If they get off track, gently guide them right back! Bless
their marriages with a closeness and freshness that is more than
they've ever experienced before! In Jesus' name, amen.
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Warm Christmas wishes to you, ladies! Have a very special day with
those you love!!

For those of you whose husbands are working the Christmas Eve,
Christmas Day, and/or New Year's Eve shifts, I pray that you will be given an
EXTRA special blessing on those days! Your sacrifice is appreciated!! Do
something that makes you smile that day!

Warmly,
Denise

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Every year at this time, I send out a special poem that I wrote in
2001. The message is one of God's love, support, and protection for
His peace officers! Be sure your husband sees it!

Thank YOU for being the strength, prayer, and support behind the
badge of our peace officers!!

If you pass this poem along to anyone, I just ask that the copyright
and subscription info be left attached. Enjoy!
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A PEACE OFFICER'S CHRISTMAS

'Twas the night before Christmas, and all through the streets,
not a person was stirring, 'cept an officer on the beat.
As he quietly patrolled the town with great care,
children and parents slept peacefully there.

The officer was clad in his blues and his vest,
gun on his hip, always looking his best.
He'd just pulled aside for a quick bite to eat,
When all of a sudden, out on the street,

A bright light appeared from out of nowhere,
He shielded his eyes from the brilliant glare.
'Twas an angel of the Lord at the squad's rear,
He smiled and spoke, "Dear Officer, don't fear."

"I've been sent by God with a message for you
who faithfully serve while wearing the blue.
He wants you to know He loves you all,
He's pleased with the way you've answered His call.

"To protect and serve others, so selfless you've been,
Your bravery and kindness have known no end.
Even in tragedy, when nights became long,
You've helped countless strangers by being strong.

"God sees your heart, the joy and the pain,
He knows the profession can often bring strain.
So he sent me here to let you know,
That as you patrol, He goes where you go.

"As you protect others, your Father protects you,
His angels go with you, His Spirit does, too.
No bullet too fast, no bad guy too strong,
I'm sent to make sure that your life will be long.

"So fear not the night, and fear not the day,
fear not the threats that might come your way.
I'm sent to accompany you on your beat,
There's not one moment you're alone on the street."

The officer sat stunned by the love of His God,
He bowed his head, with a tear gave a nod.
As the officer said thank you, the angel took flight,
"God's got your back, carry on, and goodnight."
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IT'S TIME FOR A PRAYER MEETING!

"For where two or three have gathered together in My name, there I am
in their midst."
Matthew 18:20 (NAS)

Wouldn't it be great to be with almost 400 other cops' wives to pray
for each other's marriages? Can you imagine the impact on the
husbands, families, and marriages? Wouldn't it be wonderful to be
praying with women who understand your life?

Here's your chance! Welcome to the CopDevotionals4Wives Cyber Prayer
Meeting! As of today, there are just shy of 400 subscribers to this
devotional service. I would like every one of you to stop whatever
you are doing when you receive this e-mail and pray for each other's
marriages!

There is no time or distance in the spirit. We can all join together
in prayer, even if we are not in the same room, the same state, or
even in the same country! As we bind together praying with the same
purpose, God will work supernaturally! As you pray for the others,
they will be praying for you!

Pray for the men's safety, for wisdom in carrying out their duties,
for them to have supernatural knowledge in the face of danger, and
for the officers' mental, physical and spiritual health. Pray also
for those who are married to unbelievers, that someone would be
brought into the life of the unbelieving husband who would be able to
lead him to the Lord. Pray for those struggling with problems in
their marriages. Pray for growing intimacy, good communication,
increase in finances, and for each other's kids. And anything else
that you think would be a blessing to the women in the group!

When we all pray with one voice, one purpose... miraculous things will happen!

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THE FIRST HOUR

"A soothing tongue is a tree of life."
Proverbs 15:4a (NAS)

Have you noticed that the first hour or so of your day often sets the
tone for the rest of the day? If things don't go right in the
morning, if you've overslept, if the kids are crabby, if your husband
hurts your feelings, if you spill something on your clothes on the
way out the door, if the car won't start.... it can affect your mood
and how you approach your day!

Well guess what, ladies? It's the same way for your hubbies! Your cop
may be big, strong, and masculine, but he is affected by the things
that are going on around him, too! Do something to help his day begin
positively!

You know your man better than anyone else. What would put a smile on
his face and encourage him as his day begins? A cup of hot coffee? A
hug and a kiss? An "I love you, baby"? Maybe a little help getting
his things together for him the night before? A short prayer
together?

Whether his "morning" begins at 0600 hours or 1800 hours, help your
officer start off his day on a good note!

PRAYER: Father, thank you for each new day and the chance to start
fresh! Help these ladies to be an encouragement to their husbands
first thing each day! In Jesus' name, amen.
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LET HIM KNOW

"...And let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband-
-that she notices him, regards him, honors him; prefers him,
venerates and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him,
and loves and admires him exceedingly."
Ephesians 5:33b (AMP)

This weekend, as the United States honors those who have given their
lives fighting for our country, take time to honor your officer who
fights the war of crime right here on the streets of our nation! Let
him know how proud you are of him and how much you admire him as a
peace officer!

Peace officers have a thankless job and rarely get a pat on the back.
They witness more death and destruction in one year than most of us
will see in a lifetime. They have to deal with the unforgiving media,
the public's lack of understanding, the uncertainty of every call,
and courts that sometimes let offenders off. It's easy to see how our
law enforcement officers can get cynical and jaded. But you, his
wife, can counter that at home!

One of the biggest needs your man has is to be admired by you, his
wife. Yes, your big strong cop needs to hear YOUR words of
admiration! Tell him you are proud of him as a cop. Let him know that
his work is making a difference in the world. Make sure he knows that
you appreciate his abilities as a protector. And while you are at it,
tell him how hot he looks in his uniform (or suit if he isn't a
uniformed officer)! (You know he'll love that!)

Take every opportunity you get to convey your admiration,
appreciation, and pride in your officer!

PRAYER:  Father, thank you for our law enforcement officers. Thank
you for their wives who are the support behind the badge. Help these
ladies to build up their husbands and to support them througout their
careers! Bless each couple! In Jesus' name, amen.

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ONGOING TRAINING

"An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above
jewels."  Proverbs 31:10 (NAS)

Your husband's law enforcement training didn't end with academy
graduation. It had only just begun... He probably had a Field
Training Officer who worked with him during his first weeks as an
officer. Even now, he continues to qualify with his weapons, sharpen
his policing skills, and update his knowledge of weapons, tactics,
and new laws. He may even train for new positions or special
assignments throughout his career.

Don't you wish that marriage came with such indepth training?!
Imagine having a "Field Training Officer" in the beginning of your
married life to guide you whenever you hit a bump in the road! Think
about how beneficial it would be if couples had continual training to
understand their mates and to learn how to deal effectively with
challenges!

You CAN continue to train and update your skills as a Christian wife!
Seek out books by trusted authors. Start a wives' Bible Study to
study, encourage and pray for one another's marriages. Seek advice
from Christian counselors or pastors or wise married women when you
need guidance. Pray everyday for your husband and ask God how to
bless him.

If your husband is one to participate, attend a marriage enrichment
seminar together. Work together to plan husband/wife "dates" and weekends away
once in awhile to focus on the two of you!

Saying, "I do" doesn't make one a good marriage partner any more than
simply putting on a uniform and badge makes a person a good cop.
Ongoing practice/training is necessary for growth in ANYthing in
which you wish to succeed!

PRAYER: Father, guide these couples in their pursuit of a good,
longlasting, and happy marriage! Bless their efforts to improve
themselves and their marriages! Help them to understand each other
and to deal with issues effectively. In Jesus' name, amen.
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I'm back from my long holiday break! If you go to the web site, you
will notice that I have changed the group description to say that
devotionals will go out "once or twice a month" rather than "twice a
month". I have found that I need the flexibility, depending on what
things are going on in my life :)
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A FRESH START

"Love never fails..." 1 Corinthians 13:8a (NAS)


Happy 2007 to you all! A new year means an opportunity for a fresh
start in many areas of your lives. Today we will talk about
freshening up your marriages this year :)

No matter what condition your marriage is currently in, there are
things you can do to put it or keep it on the path of improvement.
Even if your husband isn't one to actively work at building a
stronger marriage, your efforts will please God, and I would venture
to say even be noticed by your husband.

I want you to get a piece of paper and a pen and start to list some
of the things that you know would please your husband. This is your
PRIVATE list that is just for you, not to be shared with him! You
will use this list for ideas to bless him over the course of the
year. :) Continue to add to it as more ideas come to you!

Does he have a couple of favorite home cooked meals? Do his work
uniforms need to go to the cleaners, or be washed and ironed? Is
there something special he would enjoy in the lovemaking department?
Would he be touched by a love note in his squad bag or lunch? Is
there a chore he has been wishing to get to, but been unable to
because of his work schedule, that you could do for him? Is there a
hobby or activity that he loves to do that you could do with him? Is
there something that you have been angry with him about that you
could put behind you? Do you pray daily for him?

The list is endless! If you choose one thing a week over the next
year, you would be well on your way to improving your marriage. One
important thing to note here.... Make sure that you are not shoving
it in his face... you don't want to be saying, "I did this for you
and you don't even appreciate it!" Or, "You didn't even notice I did
that!" This is something you are doing out of love for your husband,
whether he notices or not. Keep it unconditional.

Remember.... "Love never fails." 1 Corinthians 13:8a

PRAYER: Father, show these ladies which things would really bless the
hearts of their husbands. Help them to provide their husbands with
unconditional love throughout the year. Bless them for their efforts!
Move on the hearts of their husbands so that they will want to seek
improvement in their marriages as well. In Jesus' name, amen.
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Every year at this time, I send out a special poem that I wrote in
2001 for some officer friends. The message is one of love and
protection for His peace officers! Be sure your husband sees it!

If you pass it along to anyone, I just ask that the copyright and
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A PEACE OFFICER'S CHRISTMAS

'Twas the night before Christmas, and all through the streets,
not a person was stirring, 'cept an officer on the beat.
As he quietly patrolled the town with great care,
children and parents slept peacefully there.

The officer was clad in his blues and his vest,
gun on his hip, always looking his best.
He'd just pulled aside for a quick bite to eat,
When all of a sudden, out on the street,

A bright light appeared from out of nowhere,
He shielded his eyes from the brilliant glare.
'Twas an angel of the Lord at the squad's rear,
He smiled and spoke, "Dear Officer, don't fear."

"I've been sent by God with a message for you
who faithfully serve while wearing the blue.
He wants you to know He loves you all,
He's pleased with the way you've answered His call.

"To protect and serve others, so selfless you've been,
Your bravery and kindness have known no end.
Even in tragedy, when nights became long,
You've helped countless strangers by being strong.

"God sees your heart, the joy and the pain,
He knows the profession can often bring strain.
So he sent me here to let you know,
That as you patrol, He goes where you go.

"As you protect others, your Father protects you,
His angels go with you, His Spirit does, too.
No bullet too fast, no bad guy too strong,
I'm sent to make sure that your life will be long.

"So fear not the night, and fear not the day,
fear not the threats that might come your way.
I'm sent to accompany you on your beat,
There's not one moment you're alone on the street."

The officer sat stunned by the love of His God,
He bowed his head, with a tear gave a nod.
As the officer said thank you, the angel took flight,
"God's got your back, carry on, and goodnight."
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DON'T FLIRT WITH DANGER!

Today we are going to touch on a very dangerous threat to your
marriage... OTHER MEN! Ok, so that's a no-brainer! Or is it...?

How often do you find yourself alone or lonely? A cop's wife can be
on her own much of the time because of her husband's long and unusual
hours. We all know that there can be times when a cop is less than
sensitive in dealing with the people he loves because of his "control
the incident" training.

It can be very tempting when another man pays attention to you! Maybe
he's just flirting. Maybe he wants to be your friend. It's not as
harmless as some think! When you start hanging out with or confiding
in a male friend, Satan will begin to put devisive thoughts into your
head like, "That man is so much more sensitive than MY husband."
Or, "That man understands me so much more!"

Pretty soon, Satan will begin to rehearse all the negative things
about your husband and all the positive attributes of the
male "friend". You don't plan to go out and have an affair, but when
you gradually turn your trust and companionship over to a
male "friend" rather than your husband, it's only a matter of time
before it goes farther. In a weak moment, when your husband really
upsets you, you can fall into adultery.

Regardless of how far it does or doesn't go, a close friendship with
another man breeds distrust in your marital relationship and opens
the door to opportunity for you! Your husband shouldn't have any
competition for your affections! If you need companionship during the
lonely times, seek out women of God! Don't flirt with danger!

PRAYER: Father, I ask that you would provide good, close, Godly
female friendships for each of these ladies! If they have close male
friends, help them to back away from those and to focus their
affections on their husband! In Jesus' name, amen.

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SKILLS TO OVERCOME PROBLEMS IN MARRIAGE...
Part 7 - "Know When To Seek Counsel"

"Where there is no guidance, the people fall, but in abundance of
counselors there is victory." Proverbs 11:14 (NAS)


Welcome to our seventh and final episode of "Skills to Overcome
Problems in Marriage"! The last point I would like to touch on is the
issue of seeking counseling. Many couples wait until their
relationship is falling apart before even considering getting help.
And many more won't even consider it... Why is that??

From my own personal experience, it comes from stubborn pride and
embarrassment. We think that as Christians, we should "have it all
together" and not need help. And oftentimes police officers, having
been trained to "control the incident" for their own officer safety,
have a really hard time realizing that maybe they don't have
everything under control in their personal lives.

The bottom line is this: God did not call your husband into this line
of work for the purpose of destroying your marriage... Yet law
enforcement marriages are failing at staggering rates! When conflict
arises that you are not able to work out immediately between the two
of you, seek counsel early on before it becomes major!

Seeking counsel does not necessarily mean going to a professional
counselor. It can be as simple as talking to a good Christian female
friend about how to respond to your husband. Or the two of you
sitting down to ask advice from a Christian couple who are strong in
the Lord. It can be talking through the situation with a Chaplain or
pastor. It can be peer counseling from your church. If your marriage
has been suffering severe hardship, seek professional counseling from
someone who is pro-marriage. Don't wait!

A word of caution: Do NOT seek advice from bitter divorced people! I
have told the cops that that is like going down to the prison and
seeking legal advice from an inmate! You need to get your advice from
someone who is strong in the Lord and understands God's Word!

A second word of caution:  Do NOT seek counsel from an opposite sex
friend unless your husband is with you! We'll touch on that in
another devotional, but it sets the stage for temptation, comparison,
and infidelity!

See your marriage as WORTH seeking counsel! God put people in your
lives to be a blessing and help to you. Seek them out without shame
or fear!

PRAYER: Father, your law enforcement officers and their wives have a
precious relationship that you want to see thrive! Help them to work
out their conflicts, and to seek the advice of others when they are
unable to come to a resolution quickly. Help them to see how much it
will benefit their marriage and strengthen the bond between husband
and wife! In Jesus' name, amen.
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SKILLS TO OVERCOME PROBLEMS IN MARRIAGE...
Part 6 - Seek Solutions

"The first to plead his case seems just, until another comes and
examines him."  Proverbs 18:17 (NAS)

When you have a disagreement with your husband, doesn't it feel good
when you win? Especially when you can prove that you're right and
he's wrong? I don't know about you, but I like to be right!! O:-)

As much as it feels good to be right, "being right" cannot become
what it's all about. Your purpose as a couple must be to seek a
solution rather than assessing blame. It really doesn't matter who is
wrong when your ultimate goal is to restore unity between you.

Even when you feel strongly about your side, take time to listen to
your husband's point of view and feelings without interupting, and
try to gain an understanding of why he feels the way he does. Chances
are both of you have some valid points.

Remember that it may be difficult for your cop husband to compromise
sometimes if he is accustomed to having the final say with
his "clientele" on the job. At work, he is the authority. At home, it
may be hard for him to step out of his authoritarian mode and work as
a couple when a disagreement arises. The cop in him sometimes kicks
into gear even at home!

You can wisely help him to move toward compromise/solution mode when
you acknowledge that he has valid points. He needs to know that you
value his thoughts and care how he feels about the situation. When he
sees that you validate his viewpoint, you can suggest that you work
together to find a solution that both of you can live with.

Remember, neither of your egos should be the priority in
disagreements! Always work toward a solution!

PRAYER: Father, give these women your wisdom in dealing with their
husbands when there is a disagreement between them. Reveal to them
what is in their husband's heart and help them to compromise to find
a place of unity. In Jesus' name, amen.
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I'm so sorry for the devotional delay! It's been a busy end of the school year
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SKILLS TO OVERCOME PROBLEMS IN MARRIAGE...
Part 5 - Tell The Truth

"There are six things which the Lord hates; yes, seven which are an abomination
to Him: ... a lying tongue..."
Proverbs 6:16,17b (NAS)

With the divorce rate amongst law enforcement marriages so high, we are
endeavoring to keep these marriages strong! Let's dive right into today's skill!

You've all heard the phrase "little white lie". It's ironic how the world has
color coded the sin of lying so as to justify their actions! The Bible states
that God hates lying... it will tear away at the very fabric of your
relationship!

Lying is a means of deception that can manifest in many ways. The outright "big"
lies are obvious and probably prick your conscience. But the "littler" lies are
just as destructive to your marriage! They set the stage for distrust!

Search your heart to see if there are areas in which you have allowed lying to
slip into your relationship. Have you ever made a purchase that you didn't want
your husband to know about... one that you KNOW he would not be happy about, but
you chose to hide it from him? What about the times when he asks you if
something is bothering you, but you say 'no' just to avoid confrontation? Or
perhaps there are hidden things about your past? Or maybe there are things that
you lie about to keep from upsetting him?

All of these things are forms of deception and open the door for the devil to
work in your marriage. There is always a way to handle the truth sensitively.
Cops deal with lying 'clientele' everyday on the job... It is so important that
your husband knows that you are the one person he can trust!

Honesty breeds trust and security, dishonesty breeds doubt and insecurity. Make
a commitment to keep honesty a top priority in your marriage!

PRAYER:  Father, reveal to the ladies any area in which they are being less than
honest with their husband. Help them to avoid deception and to be truthful and
sensitive when dealing with their husbands. In Jesus' name, amen.
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SKILLS TO OVERCOME PROBLEMS IN MARRIAGE... Part 4 - Choose to Forgive!

"...forgiving each other just as God in Christ also has forgiven you."
Ephesians 4:32b (NAS)

Happy Resurrection Sunday!! What a perfect time to move on to the next skill to
help make law enforcement marriages strong! Today's skill is CHOOSE TO FORGIVE!

Let's face it... you will never go through marriage without a disagreement at
some time or another. If you choose to hang onto every hurt feeling that occurs
between you and your husband, and to carry it into the future of your marriage,
you will be a miserable woman! You must choose to forgive... yes, I said CHOOSE!

Forgiveness is not a feeling you have to muster up... How you feel has nothing
to do with it. Forgiveness is a decision to let go of bitterness, whether he
deserves it or not, whether you feel like it or not.. Forgiveness helps YOU to
move forward so that there isn't pain/anger everytime you think of or talk to
him!

Think of it this way... when Jesus said to forgive, He went so far as to say to
forgive your enemies... He forgave those who nailed Him to the cross...
obviously forgiveness cannot be restricted to feelings... it has to be a
conscious choice of your will to let go of the bitterness and hurt feelings.
That does not mean you should not talk over problems with your husband; it
simply means that you cannot hold onto bitterness.

How do you know if you have unforgiveness toward your husband? Listen carefully
to the words you use... "You NEVER..." or "You ALWAYS..." are symptoms of
unforgiveness. Dwelling on thoughts of past offenses or bringing them up in
conversations are symptoms that you need to make a choice.

If you are harboring unforgiveness toward your husband today, pray and ask God
to forgive you for not forgiving him, and then declare before God that you are
not going to hold onto that bitterness any longer. Then, whenever those negative
thoughts about your husband start to enter your mind, CHOOSE to say, "NO, I've
forgiven him" and think about something positive in relation to him... only ONE
thought can hold a place in your mind at a time! CHOOSE TO FORGIVE!!

PRAYER: Father, reveal to these ladies if there are any areas of unforgiveness
in their hearts toward their husbands. Help them to let go of the pain and hurt
feelings so that they can go forward and grow in their relationship!! In Jesus'
name, amen.
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SKILLS TO OVERCOME PROBLEMS IN MARRIAGE...
Part 3 - "Close The Back Door"

"'For I hate divorce,' says the Lord, the God of Israel."
Malachi 2:16a (NAS)

We've been discussing skills that need to be developed in order to
have a successful law enforcement marriage. Today's skill is one of
the most important!

Above all else, ladies, you must immediately and permanently
determine that divorce is NOT a back door in your marriage! CLOSE
THAT DOOR! Your marriage must be something from which there is no way
out! Never entertain the mentality that "I can divorce him if it
doesn't work out!"

There are several ways to close the door to divorce. First, make a
commitment with your husband that the word divorce won't even be
allowed in  your vocabulary. Under no circumstance will either of you
even mention walking out, leaving, separating or divorce!

Second, when you have an arguement or disagreement, don't develop the
habit of stomping out of the room/house or leaving the conversation
out of anger. That is reinforcing the habit of leaving and it breeds
divorce. Commit to staying until you have progress, or set an agreed
upon time within a short period in which you will come together to
discuss the issue.

Third, whenever you feel anger welling up inside of you, still tell
your spouse "I love you". Reinforce the love. You can still love him
when you are angry, and that is the time he especially needs to know
that. Don't leave him wondering or doubting your love. There are
plenty of badge bunnies out there who are all too willing to 'spread
the love'. Let him be secure in YOUR love.

Choose TODAY that divorce will never be an option. Close that door
for good!

PRAYER: Father, I ask that you would speak to the hearts of these
couples the wisdom of not even entertaining thoughts of divorce. Help
them to permanently close that door, never to open it! In Jesus'
name, amen.
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SKILLS TO OVERCOME PROBLEMS IN MARRIAGE
Part 2... "Guard Your Tongue"

"Death and life are in the power of the tongue."
Proverbs 18:21a (NAS)


Because law enforcement careers can be hard on a marriage, we are
discussing the various skills you can employ to overcome problems in
your marriage. Today we will be focussing on one of your smallest
body parts... your tongue!

It's amazing how something so small and hidden can cause such
destruction if not restrained!! Your tongue literally has the power
to bring life or death to your marriage... and you make that choice
each time you speak to your spouse!

Think about the times that words have encouraged you or hurt you...
Your words to your husband have the same power! He may be a big
strong cop, but words affect him nonetheless! Especially the words
coming from his wife's mouth!

Before you speak, think about whether the words you are about to
speak will bring peace, resolution, and encouragement... or will they
have the effect of a bullet, tearing him apart? Remember... you don't
have to SAY everything that you are thinking!! Sometimes you need to
sit on your words until you can process them in a better manner!

Guard your tongue... Make sure that you speak words of life when you
are speaking to that special man that God has given you!

PRAYER: Father, I pray that the words of these women's mouths would
be pleasing to you, and would be an encouragement to their husbands!
Alert them whenever they are about to speak words of death, and help
them to speak words of life instead! In Jesus' name, amen.
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SKILLS TO OVERCOME PROBLEMS IN MARRIAGE
Part 1... "Be Sensitive"

"Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with  humility of
mind let each of you regard one another as more important than
himself; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but
also for the interests of others."
Philippians 2:3,4 (NAS)

Most marriages start out with both parties expecting it to be GOOD!
You don't marry planning to later divorce! But then... stuff
happens... LIFE happens! And you have to deal with problems.

Because law enforcement careers can be hard on a marriage, we are
going to be embarking on a new series that will be addressing skills
for overcoming problems in marriage. Each of the skills we address
over the upcoming weeks can be applied in some fashion to your
relationship. Today's topic is 'sensitivity'.

As women, we tend to think of ourselves as the more sensitive of the
sexes. We sense things that the guys often don't, and we are more
likely to be in touch with feelings and emotions. This is a good
thing that is God-given! Now let's apply that to how you relate to
your husband.

Ladies, you need to be sensitive to what's going on with your
husband. Let's say you want to discuss something important with
him... Is he physically tired? How is he doing emotionally? Is he
frustrated with his job that day? Is he relaxed and open at the
moment? TIMING IS EVERYTHING! Being sensitive to what's going on with
him will cause you to have good timing in approaching him with
important discussion or in relaying your frustrations of the day!
Sometimes waiting a few hours is more beneficial to the marriage!

Also, when you sense that something is bothering him, how do you
approach him? Using your sensitivity for the positive, you will pick
a wise time and method to ask. Cops often will keep their emotions
inside because they are trained to do so on the job. But you want
your man to open up to you! You know him better than anyone else...
Will a long hug open him up? Perhaps a shoulder massage? Maybe a long
walk and dinner, or a drive. Use non-threatening words and your
knowledge of him to benefit your communication! If in doubt, pray and
ask God to show you which method would best soften him at that moment.

Being sensitive to his emotional, physical, and spiritual state is
important in building your marital relationship! And as you relate
sensitively to him, he may even learn a few things from you and
reciprocate!

PRAYER:  Father, train these ladies to use their God-given
sensitivity to facilitate communication in their marriage. Reveal to
them the feelings and emotions that are within their husband so that
they can relate to their man in a way that will benefit their
relationship! In Jesus' name, amen.
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United States store shelves. The game has an option that allows the
player to kill cops. NLEOMF hopes to collect 17,500 signatures, which
represents the approximate number of names inscribed on the walls of
the National Law Enforcement Officers Memorial.
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A MARRIAGE RESOLUTION... Part 2

"Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with  humility of
mind let each of you regard one another as more important than
himself; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but
also for the interests of others."
Philippians 2:3,4 (NAS)

On our last visit, I asked you ladies to send me your New
Year's "marriage resolutions" to share with the group. Thanks to
those who responded! Your ideas are inspiring! If you have not yet
decided on something that you would like to work on in your marriage
this year, consider some of these ideas!


***Speak more uplifting things to your husband. Instead of being
critical, pray when you feel a critical moment coming on. For
example, if your husband is not good at home repairs....but he
tries... focus on his efforts and encourage him when he does try
instead of being so quick to say, "OH NO...NOT AGAIN!"

***Set aside at least one meal per week (or one entire day) to fast
and pray for your husband.

***For improved communication, connect with your husband via cell
phone on his drive home from work. This can be helpful if you work
opposite hours and don't get to see each other when he comes home.

***Plan at least one date night a month..... either find a babysitter
or swap child care with someone for the dates.

***Talk on the phone with your husband during his lunch time or break
to 'stay in touch' during the day.

***Every once in awhile, tuck a little love note in his lunch or
squad bag.

***Plan an occasional 'surprise love-making' session for your
husband, complete with candles.

***Learn as much as you can about one of his favorite hobbies and
enjoy it with him.

***Purpose to find at least one thing to praise him for everyday.

***Let him know how proud you are of him as a cop... frequently. He
needs to hear it.

***Attend a Bible study group together and discuss it at home together
afterwards. Or plan to discuss the Sunday sermon each week and how it relates to
you.


WAY TO GO, LADIES!


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A MARRIAGE RESOLUTION

"Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with  humility of
mind let each of you regard one another as more important than
himself; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but
also for the interests of others."
Philippians 2:3,4 (NAS)

Happy New Year, ladies!!

As you stand at the beginning of this new year, I want you to take
inventory of your marriage... Where does it need to improve? In light
of your officer's work schedule, what would facilitate more couple
time? Are you as close as you would like to be? Are you growing
together spiritually? Are you working to meet each other's needs? Are
there areas of unforgiveness? How is your life in the bedroom?

After praying and seeking God, decide upon ONE thing that you can
work on (either yourself or as a couple) that will improve your
marriage relationship over the course of this year. Make it realistic
and create small steps to reach your goal!

Perhaps the two of you will decide to set aside one or two date times
per month. Maybe you will take 15 minutes everyday to 'reconnect' and
talk about your day. If he likes to be pampered, you might decide to
pamper him with breakfast in bed once in awhile. You might join a
couple's group at church. Perhaps you will decide you need to purpose
to praise him on a more regular basis, in particular in the area of
his job. You might arrange your schedule to pray for him 1/2 hour
everyday. Or you might try to increase your frequency of love-making.

Whatever it is, tailor it to the needs of YOUR marriage! Then, those
of you who are comfortable sharing, I would like you to send me
your "marriage resolution" to share with the group! NO NAMES will be
attached. Just the ideas. I'll send them out in the next mailing so
that we can all have ideas to use in the area of nuturing our
relationships!

PRAYER: Father, speak to each of these wives' hearts and show them
what they can do to facilitate the growth of their marriage
relationship. Soften their husbands' hearts to them and bless these
couples! In Jesus' name, amen.
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Every year at this time, I send out a special poem that I wrote in
2001 for some officer friends. The message is one of love and
protection for His peace officers!

If you pass it along to anyone, I just ask that the copyright and
subscription info be left attached. Enjoy!
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A PEACE OFFICER'S CHRISTMAS

'Twas the night before Christmas, and all through the streets,
not a person was stirring, 'cept an officer on the beat.
As he quietly patrolled the town with great care,
children and parents slept peacefully there.

The officer was clad in his blues and his vest,
gun on his hip, always looking his best.
He'd just pulled aside for a quick bite to eat,
When all of a sudden, out on the street,

A bright light appeared from out of nowhere,
He shielded his eyes from the brilliant glare.
'Twas an angel of the Lord at the squad's rear,
He smiled and spoke, "Dear Officer, don't fear."

"I've been sent by God with a message for you
who faithfully serve while wearing the blue.
He wants you to know He loves you all,
He's pleased with the way you've answered His call.

"To protect and serve others, so selfless you've been,
Your bravery and kindness have known no end.
Even in tragedy, when nights became long,
You've helped countless strangers by being strong.

"God sees your heart, the joy and the pain,
He knows the profession can often bring strain.
So he sent me here to let you know,
That as you patrol, He goes where you go.

"As you protect others, your Father protects you,
His angels go with you, His Spirit does, too.
No bullet too fast, no bad guy too strong,
I'm sent to make sure that your life will be long.

"So fear not the night, and fear not the day,
fear not the threats that might come your way.
I'm sent to accompany you on your beat,
There's not one moment you're alone on the street."

The officer sat stunned by the love of His God,
He bowed his head, with a tear gave a nod.
As the officer said thank you, the angel took flight,
"God's got your back, carry on, and goodnight."
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A HAPPY LAW ENFORCEMENT HOLIDAY SEASON!... Part 2

"This is the day which the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad
in it!"   Psalm 118:24 (NAS)

Today we will be discussing how to get through the holidays without
CHAOS, even if your husband's work schedule requires YOU to do most of the
planning. First order of business... go get your calendar and some notebook
paper! Yes, that's an order!

Two rules before you start writing on your calendar:
1. DO NOT overextend your family with activities! Have the family pick
a few events that they will really enjoy and leave it at that! Leave
room for family time!
2. DO NOT overspend! Decide on a budget that you can AFFORD and stick
to it! Do you really want to be paying off Christmas in April??

The key to minimizing chaos over the holidays is to make good use of
your calendar and lists, and to do the work a little at a time
instead of all at once. We can ENJOY THE JOURNEY instead of running
around like chickens with our heads cut off trying to get to the
destination!

First, make a list of the holiday activities that your family has decided upon.
Write each one on your calendar. Include church events,
community events, parties, any hosting you would like to do at your
home, celebrations with relatives, school performances, tree decorating, outdoor
light hanging, and time reserved JUST FOR YOUR OWN FAMILY.  Look it over
again... do you feel stressed at the schedule? Then scale back a bit. There will
be some events you and the kids may have to attend without your husband because
of his work schedule, but that is OK. You can enjoy them anyway!

Now think about the Christmas baking you want to do. Pick a couple of days and
schedule them on your calendar as "Christmas baking
days". You don't have to marathon bake nor do you have to bake 20
different varieties! Start now, a little here and a little there! And
let the kids help... the cookies don't have to be perfect! Be sure to
include one batch of each person's favorite!

Next, write down a day on your calendar to take out all of your gift
supplies and put them in ONE place. Include wrapping paper, ribbons,
boxes, tape, mailers, stamps, fancy pens, etc. You do not have to
schedule a wrapping day for yourself because you are going to wrap
each present when you bring it home from the store, and you'll know
right where all your supplies are! You may need to schedule a special
day for the kids to wrap gifts that they are giving. Put it on the
calendar!!

Now on to lists. Make a list of the supplies you will need for baking
holiday goodies, and for Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years meals.
Keep that list on the refrigerator and cross each item off as you get
them. Spread the expense out over a few weeks.

Now make a list of people you want to send Christmas cards to.
Purchase your cards and stamps the next time you go to the store.
Start writing out just a few cards a day and see how fast they get
done!! They'll be out before the first week in December is over!

Last list... gifts!! Remember, stay within your budget! If you have
mail order gifts, make sure they will arrive on time. Put a date on
the calendar to order these. If you have to mail packages, check with
the post office now to determine the last date you can mail and still
be on time for Christmas. Write a day on your calendar on which you
will take all packages to the post office!

Last but not least, I want you to think about what food items you can
prepare in advance for your holiday meals. Write them in on the
calendar on the days that you can prepare them. If you do a little
here and there over several days, you won't feel so pressured. And
don't be afraid to ask guests to bring a dish to share!

Once your lists are made and your calendar is filled out, you have a
PLAN! Now just carry out that plan! Remember...the reason for all of
our celebrating is because of our thankfulness for Jesus and all that
He has given us, and to show His love to others... I don't think He
would want us to be all stressed out in the celebrations! Enjoy the
journey and let your family see just how special this time of year
can be!

I'm off... to get MY calendar and notebook paper and to do exactly what I told
you to do!

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PRAYER:  Father, this is a special time of year. Help these ladies to
organize their lists and their calendars so that all they have to do
is follow through on their plans! Let this be their best holiday
season ever and help them to draw close to their loved ones and to
you! In Jesus' name, amen.
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A HAPPY LAW ENFORCEMENT HOLIDAY SEASON! ...Part 1

"This is the day which the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad
in it."   Psalm 118:24 (NAS)

Ladies, the holidays are approaching and will be here before you know
it! So today we will begin discussing how to have a "Happy Law
Enforcement Holiday Season"!

One of the biggest frustrations for law enforcement wives is not
having their hubby home for Thanksgiving, Christmas, and/or New
Year's Eve. For many, those holidays are associated with special
traditions and feelings. There can be a sense of loneliness and loss
when a holiday cannot be shared with your husband because he is
working. In order to relax and enjoy the holidays as a law
enforcement family, you'll need to change your mind-set a bit, do some
early organizing, and be creative!

This week, let's talk about scheduling the celebration. Who says that
Thanksgiving or Christmas have to be on a certain day? And New Years
is still the New Year if it's the 2nd or 3rd or 4th of January! They
are simply days set aside to celebrate. So... pick a day that your
husband is off and make THAT your holiday! We have to get away from
being obsessed with a particular DAY being the only time to
celebrate. EVERY day is given to us by the Lord and any day can be
declared your holiday!

What if his hours don't fascilitate a traditional holiday dinner? How
about trying something new, like "Thanksgiving Breakfast"
or "Christmas Breakfast" or a "Midnight Feast" or "Happy 1st Week of
the New Year"? I did a Thanksgiving breakfast one year when the
family couldn't be together for dinner, and it was a blast! My kids
still ask for it every year! Imagine a mega-breakfast with several
choices and "trimmings"! You can still get the table decked out and
serve juice in wine glasses!

Another fun alternative is to see if the department will let the
wives bring in Thanksgiving dinner, Christmas dinner, or a New Year's
Eve spread for the officers on his shift. What a way to spice up the day and
bless the officers who are stuck working the actual holiday!

Ladies, God would want us to put our mind-set on making memories and
enjoying the family during these holiday months rather than moping
over what is missing. This can be your best holiday season yet!

Next time we will be discussing ways to get through the holiday
months without CHAOS, even if you are having to do most of the
planning yourself because of your husband's work schedule! You can do
it!

PRAYER: Father, thank you for our families and for the chance to make
memories with them! Help us to let go of perfectionism and to enjoy
our loved ones through this upcoming holiday season! In Jesus' name,
amen.
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A QUICK NOTE: I apologize for the delays in getting devotionals out
these past few months. I have meant to send two per month, but have
only sent one per month. I will continue writing devotionals each
month--whether once or twice a month-- and ask for your understanding
and support as I make my family my first priority :)
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INTUITION

"You husbands likewise, live with  your wives in an understanding
way."
1Peter 3:7a (NAS)

It's amazing how well the guys seem to be able to read the minds and
actions of suspects or criminals!  I know one cop who seems to know
the habits of every 'bad guy' on his beat... Sometimes I think he
even knows when the bad guys pee! Ever wonder why the men can't use
this wonderful 'intuitive skill' at home in knowing what their wives
are thinking???

Truth is, your officer has had extensive job training and years of
job experience to enhance his skills. But very few men (or women)
have had extensive training in personal relationships, in particular
in the area of communication and marriage.

How often do we, as women, give a man the silent treatment
because "he should know how I feel"? Or perhaps we feel that our
silence "tells it all" and will get him to come running after us to
see what's wrong. More often than not, those things backfire. Then we
get mad because we think he's being insensitive!

No one but YOU and GOD really knows for sure what you are thinking
and feeling. It is up to you to lovingly communicate what's on your
mind to your husband. Don't assume that he knows or make him try to
figure it out!

Yes, with time and effort, two people can LEARN to read each others
moods and actions with some accuracy, but true communication is being
open, honest, and straightforward with each other rather than beating
around the bush or hinting.

Remember, none of us are mind readers! Husbands and wives, help each
other to understand one another!

PRAYER: Father, help these couples to communicate in an open and
upfront manner. No games, no beating around the bush! Let love and
truth be the underlying themes in communicating, and let it bring
them closer and closer together! In Jesus' name, amen.

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Hi ladies,

I sent the following to the CopDevotionals list, but some of you are
not on that list, so I want to make sure you get it, too!
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LET'S HELP WITH THE RELIEF EFFORT

***Please join each other in praying this prayer. Then read all the
way through to find links to organizations providing relief to
officers in the gulf area and to victims.***

A PRAYER FOR THE EMERGENCY WORKERS AND VICTIMS:
Father, we lift up all of the emergency workers who live in the gulf
area and those who are being sent in to help! Amidst all the pain,
suffering and death, protect your heroes lives! We ask for a hedge of
protection to continually surround them and for supernatural
intervention in everything that they do! Protect their emotions, too,
so that they come out mentally and emotionally intact when this is
over.  Give them the grace to be able to retrieve the bodies of the
dead and to be patient when all patience should be lost. We also ask
that you would provide for the emergency workers' families while
their loved ones are busy helping the victims. Give the families
provision and peace of mind, knowing that YOU are caring for their
loved one! For those emergency workers who also lost everything they
had in Hurricane Katrina, BLESS THEM with double to make up for what
they lost when this is over!

We also lift up all of the victims and those who lost loved ones in
the hurricane. Father, we feel their pain and ask that you would
somehow comfort them with a supernatural comfort that can only come
from you. Provide for their physical, financial, and emotional needs.
Help those who survived to be able to contact their loved ones...
connect those who cannot find each other. Father, we ask that you
would move upon the hearts of people to continue to help these
victims until they are back on their feet again. Surround them with
your love and with people who will love them! In Jesus' name, amen!

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Below, you will find info and links to organizations who are helping
in the relief effort. The first set are providing relief for OFFICERS
and their families who live in the gulf area (I got these from
reputable web sites, but PLEASE check them out for legitimacy before
donating!!). The second set are organizations who are helping all
victims (I personally have donated to these in the past and trust
them.)
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RELIEF ORGANIZATIONS FOR OFFICERS IN THE GULF AREA

1)  http://www.nleomf.com/
National Law Enforcement Officers Memorial Fund... This site lists
several relief efforts for officers... scroll down to the middle of
their page. Listed there is info on the Louisiana Troopers Relief
Fund, Adopt-A-COP Family Program to Assist Law Enforcement, Police
Relief Effort/Bedford County Sheriff's Office, National Association
of Police Organizations, Fraternal Order of Police relief effort,
among others. It is updated regularly.

2)  http://www.grandlodgefop.org/
Fraternal Order of Police... this site has info for donating
under "FUNDING" in the middle of their web page.

"Lodges, Members and the General Public are being requested to send
money to the FOP Foundation, which is a 501(c)(3) charitable entity,
which will be responsible for distributing funds on a needs
assessment basis. There are hundreds, if not thousands, of members
who have been displaced.

Note: All money collected will go directly to aid police officers
affected by Hurricane Katrina."


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CHRISTIAN RELIEF ORGANIZATIONS HELPING VICTIMS

1) Kenneth Copeland Ministries: "If you would like to make a
financial contribution through the "KCM Katrina Relief Fund," you can
do so now by going here:

https://contact.kcm.org/index.html?C=vzzzEv&L=kTUUNUJ3&F=uqBwUsA&H=KG

Or, you can call 1-888-326-011. One hundred percent of all
contributions made through the "KCM Katrina Relief Fund" will be sent
to the designated relief areas. All contributions from outside the
United States will be receipted from the USA.
We are currently coordinating with Operation Blessing at
http://www.ob.org/  in an effort to determine what items are needed,
and how to get them delivered to those affected by this tragedy. We
will make that information available to you on our Web site at
kcm.org as soon as it becomes available. Please check there often."


2) Samaritan's Purse, which is run by Billy Graham's son, Franklin
Graham.

http://www.samaritanspurse.org/MP_Article.asp?ArticleID=42


3) The Salvation Army.

http://www.salvationarmyusa.org/usn/www_usn.nsf

There is information on donating money to the relief fund, who to
contact if you are a victim, and SATERN (The Salvation Army's Team
Emergency Radio Network which has been activated to send a health and
welfare request regarding family and friends you otherwise are unable
to locate.)
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COPS' WIVES PRAYER MEETING

"For where two or three have gathered together in My name, there I am
in their midst."
Matthew 18:20 (NAS)

Imagine 268 cops' wives getting together to pray for their husbands
and for each other's marriages.... What a powerful time of prayer
that would be! Can you imagine the impact on the husbands and the
miraculous changes that could take place in those marriages??

Well, you all have the opportunity to join in a cops' wives prayer
meeting... TODAY! As of today, there are 268 subscribers to this
devotional service. I would like every one of you to stop whatever
you are doing when you receive this e-mail and take some time to pray
for your husband, for the husbands of the other CopDevotionals4Wives
women, and for each other's marriages!

There is no time or distance in the spirit. We can all join together
in prayer, even if we are not in the same room, the same state, or
even in the same country! As we bind together praying with the same
purpose, God will work supernaturally amongst each couple!

Pray for the men's safety, for wisdom in carrying out their duties,
for them to have supernatural knowledge in the face of danger, and
for the officers' mental and physical health. Pray also for those who
are married to unbelievers, that someone would be brought into the
life of the unbelieving husband who would be able to lead him to the
Lord. Pray for those struggling with problems in their marriages.
Pray for growing intimacy, good communication, increase in finances,
and for each other's kids. And anything else that you think would be
a blessing to the women in the group!

When we all storm the gates of heaven with one voice, one purpose...
miraculous things will happen!
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