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SKILLS TO OVERCOME PROBLEMS IN MARRIAGE
Part 1... "Be Sensitive"

"Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of
mind let each of you regard one another as more important than
himself; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but
also for the interests of others."
Philippians 2:3,4 (NAS)

Most marriages start out with both parties expecting it to be GOOD!
You don't marry planning to later divorce! But then... stuff
happens... LIFE happens! And you have to deal with problems.

Because law enforcement careers can be hard on a marriage, we are
going to be embarking on a new series that will be addressing skills
for overcoming problems in marriage. Each of the skills we address
over the upcoming weeks can be applied in some fashion to your
relationship. Today's topic is 'sensitivity'.

As women, we tend to think of ourselves as the more sensitive of the
sexes. We sense things that the guys often don't, and we are more
likely to be in touch with feelings and emotions. This is a good
thing that is God-given! Now let's apply that to how you relate to
your husband.

Ladies, you need to be sensitive to what's going on with your
husband. Let's say you want to discuss something important with
him... Is he physically tired? How is he doing emotionally? Is he
frustrated with his job that day? Is he relaxed and open at the
moment? TIMING IS EVERYTHING! Being sensitive to what's going on with
him will cause you to have good timing in approaching him with
important discussion or in relaying your frustrations of the day!
Sometimes waiting a few hours is more beneficial to the marriage!

Also, when you sense that something is bothering him, how do you
approach him? Using your sensitivity for the positive, you will pick
a wise time and method to ask. Cops often will keep their emotions
inside because they are trained to do so on the job. But you want
your man to open up to you! You know him better than anyone else...
Will a long hug open him up? Perhaps a shoulder massage? Maybe a long
walk and dinner, or a drive. Use non-threatening words and your
knowledge of him to benefit your communication! If in doubt, pray and
ask God to show you which method would best soften him at that moment.

Being sensitive to his emotional, physical, and spiritual state is
important in building your marital relationship! And as you relate
sensitively to him, he may even learn a few things from you and
reciprocate!

PRAYER: Father, train these ladies to use their God-given
sensitivity to facilitate communication in their marriage. Reveal to
them the feelings and emotions that are within their husband so that
they can relate to their man in a way that will benefit their
relationship! In Jesus' name, amen.
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