THIS LIST FOR ADOPTEES ONLY.

Hitting a brick wall is never a good thing, but, in adoption, it can be devastating! Here, hitting THE Brick Wall means that you have gotten to a place in your search for reunion from which you can't go forward, backward, around, over, or under an impenetrable barrier. For some, this brick wall may be rejection by the birth family members for whom you have searched. For others, it may be confirmation that you were indeed abandoned by a birth parent who left no trail. Or yours may be a black/gray market adoption in which information was falsified or destroyed.
This list is for Brick Wall SURVIVORS...even after the devastation of learning these things, we have continued to draw breath. We survive. Some days are good, some are not. If you are able to get out of bed in the morning, maybe you have something to share. If you're not coping so well, maybe we can help. At least we'll listen. Those around us don't want to hear our story again or deal with our pain. "Get on with life," they say. But HOW? That's what we want to explore here...how to survive when we've hit THE Brick
Wall.
No sugar coating here. The pain is real. You have a right to express it. Let's talk. Acceptance and healing can be just as real as our pain and rage. The 12 Steps and My Higher Power helped me, but what are YOU doing to cope?