Directed to MR. Chawla,
what you are saying is creating a sane society... perhaps you are thinking too much like a engineer where everything can be classified and the things that exist have a asymmetric independent mathematical realtions, and you hope to just twitch the variables and get the solutions of a perfect society. Unfortunately, it is not so.
The human emotions, celebrations and all the joy and pain are the all the part of psycho-sociological societal web of human existence. To prove my point i suggest you to please watch "Equilibrium" or atleast read the description of it on
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Equilibrium_(film)
Now you are worried on world bank report which was prepared by some consultant in the minimum wages paid by the world bank, who probably be foreigner who doesnt know about the indian society and its marriages, or would be a confused Indian born and brought up in a foreign country.
It seems that the main point has been missed by him, he is not against indian marriage instead he is against the "Dowry" the biggest expense in marraiges. But let me assure you even in foreign countries where most of the mariages are love marriages but there is a small segment of arranged marriages also and even in these arranged marraiges the dowry is given and they are as expensive as any other marriages.
So, the main point of focus is not Indian marriages its the DOWRY, abolish it and automatically the cost will come down.
Regards
Ashish Kumar
On Wed, Jun 17, 2009 at 2:54 PM, Dr.V.N. Sharma
<vnsh44@...> wrote:
If we limit ourselves within the topic of the WB Report India: *Wedding cost key cause of poverty* the youngsters must understand that unnecessary and non-essential items of pomp and show are the real reasons for enhanced wedding cost. It must be born in mind that none of these expenses go into some Book of World Record. Even if it goes does it have any meaning except the heart burning by others.
We may do the following to control wedding cost and transfer of dowry
Conduct the marriage ceremony in a simple way with minimum of expenditures on uncalled for pomp and show.
Limit the expenses for a dinner for close relatives and family and friends.
The Bridegroom side must bear all the expenses for what it wants to enjoy.
All essential expenses for setting up a Home for a young couple must be born by both Bridegroom and Bride parties on equal basis.
In my view not much of guidelines are required. Just try to weed everything out which is not essential to life.
Thanx
vns
On Wed, Jun 17, 2009 at 3:44 PM, Davinder Chawla
<dps.bsnl@...> wrote:
We give weight age to the foreign interpretations and finding only. as meant by the local proverb "Ghar Ka Jogi jogra Bahar Ka Jogi Siddh."
The First and foremost reason of the female child fetus killing is the social event of Pump and Show Marriage with Dowry.
Unable to coup up the expenditure people take heavy debts and tend to poverty.
Indian Youngistant Must Do Following:
- Honest Working
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Puntuality
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Bold Personality development
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Humbleness
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Following Stricktly Moral Ethics:
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No Abuses
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No Sexual Abuses and Pronography, Loyal and True Love feelings must be encouraged and respected.
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Humble while speaking and by acts.
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Respecting Elders.
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Humanity Must BE RESPECTED and Cared For.
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Does not matter people from which religion, region, Creed and Cast one may meet but behaviour must be equal and unbiased with all.
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Yoga and disciplined lifestyle needs to be adopted.
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Should learn from Chinees and Japanees cultures typically.
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It does not matter who rules ie. INDIA+PAKISTAN+BANGLADESH etc. must re-unit to end the centuries long enemities and war like situations in Asia region.
A news item on
DNA: India: *Wedding cost key cause of poverty*: *World
Bank*<http://www.dnaindia.com/report.asp?newsid=1264089>
12 Jun 2009 *...* Death, illness and social shocks like daughter's marriage
are some of the main reasons that push families in India to *poverty*.
Though this is based on limited study of four states it has some meaning for
us.
Pl. open the link below to read the complete news report
www.dnaindia.com/report.asp?newsid=1264089
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