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#3852

From: Jivana Kennedy <Jivanak@...>
Date: Sat Dec 12, 2009 10:22 am
Subject: Re: HONESTY IN INTIMACY * WHAT A CONCEPT! From a blog post on Onetantra.com

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You're welcome Carson! :-)

Jivana

On Dec 11, 2009, at 4:10 PM, Carson Boyd wrote:

Nice Jivana. Thanks for being a stand for the truth.    ~ c a r s o n

From: AZTantra@yahoogroups.com [mailto:AZTantra@yahoogroups.com] On Behalf Of Jivana Kennedy
Sent: Friday, December 11, 2009 9:48 AM
To: AZTantra@yahoogroups.com
Subject: [AZTantra] HONESTY IN INTIMACY * WHAT A CONCEPT! From a blog post on Onetantra.com

HONESTY IN INTIMACY * WHAT A CONCEPT!
�         A client called me yesterday to explain why he dropped off the radar since last we saw each other. In a tired and forlorn voice he went on to tell the sad story of how he found out that his wife was cheating on him.

Upon his first inkling several months ago, he began following her and checking up on her cell phone records. Then he hired a private investigator and had her followed, hoping to catch her in the act. Finally, he planted a recording device in her car and seemed somehow strangely satisfied that he now has in his possession recorded evidence of an actual erotic encounter between the two 'cheaters'.

Now, in the middle of an otherwise routine morni ng, I was in an all too familiar spot. Do I bite my tongue and just listen, realizing that he has not specifically called for my two cents on the matter? Or do I remind him that we have been talking about this very topic in almost every session approximately once a month, for the past six years? I slipped into listening mode, dropping back, waiting to see if a moment would arise when I could with laser precision, cut through his angst with some kind of logic. After all, he is a guy. I would have thought that logic would have some influence here. He continued to tell the story of his process of 'finding out'.

"But Brad" (not his real name) I finally interjected, "do you recall that you have been telling me that you have been feeling sexually constrained by your wife's demand for total monogamy?"

Brad often told me that he thought that if his wife caught him cheating, it would all be over and he'd be out the door in a hot flash.

"Oh yeah"... and with barely a pause the saga continued.

Now Brad, who is, BTW, the hottest of the hot and adorable clients, think Calvin Klein underwear model here, and nice, and present and sweet, etc. has been chatting me up, not aggressively, but at the same time making it crystal clear that he would like to have sex with me, for four of the six years he has been my client. And to be completely honest, within my work I am rarely tempted.... that's just not why I am there.... but Brad is one big exception. And although I have not gone there, I have to admit I have been seriously tempted.

So, I said carefully,

"Well, are you and Susan still sleeping in the same bed?"

"Yeah."

"Well, has the sex gotten hotter since all of this happened?"

"Well, yeah.."

I was fairly certain this would be the case. And then, the raw emotion finally boiled over the top and the shit hit the fan... so to speak.

"That's MY pussy!" "I had to nail it! I had to claim it !" It's MY pussy!"

And out came the roar of a wild and infuriated animal claiming his mate. A jungle cat spraying his territory. This was not the same voice, the same person that has wanted his own sexual freedom for the past six years. The one who sat with me session after session and acknowledged that the times are changing, and that we cannot really ever possess anyone's sexuality. The one who felt confined, constricted, and a bit angered by his wife's sense of morality. Just where did that Brad go? My attempt at logic was clearly not working here. And my oatmeal was getting cold. Damn, I hate cold oatmeal.

Brad and Susan are currently struggling though a painful loss of trust between them. And it had been building for years. It was inevitable. Brad wanted sexual freedom. Susan acted it out. And they are just victims of a relationship model that has not been honest.....and does not foster love between people, but actually sacr ifices love.

So, I recommended that they come in for a couples session and just get honest with one another...

"Honest?" "Really?" "Get really honest?" Yikes! It seemed almost out of the question. But as far as I can currently see, it's our only hope for bringing back trust and love.

And once we put all of our cards on the table, maybe then we can really begin to play a good game.

See the OneTantra blog: The Tyranny of the Wound of Betrayal

   ~~Jivana~~

~~www.TantricHealingTouch.com~~



   ~~Jivanak@aol.com~~



~~;       480-614-3151~~

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#3851

From: "Crystal Morris" <cdmorris@...>
Date: Sat Dec 12, 2009 2:08 am
Subject: New Article on Enhancing Intimacy and Ecstasy

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Hi,

Please check out my newest article "Tantric Healing Touch - Enhancing Intimacy and Ecstasy" - published on EzineArticles.com: http://EzineArticles.com/?id=3412716

Your comments are appreciated; make them by clicking on comments, just to the right of where it says word count. To rate it go to the 5 stars near the bottom of the page.

Blessings,

Crystal Dawn Morris

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#3850

From: "Carson Boyd" <Frankspeare@...>
Date: Fri Dec 11, 2009 11:10 pm
Subject: RE: HONESTY IN INTIMACY * WHAT A CONCEPT! From a blog post on Onetantra.com

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Nice Jivana.� Thanks for being a stand for the truth.�� ~ c a r s o n

From: AZTantra@yahoogroups.com [mailto:AZTantra@yahoogroups.com] On Behalf Of Jivana Kennedy
Sent: Friday, December 11, 2009 9:48 AM
To: AZTantra@yahoogroups.com
Subject: [AZTantra] HONESTY IN INTIMACY * WHAT A CONCEPT! From a blog post on Onetantra.com

HONESTY IN INTIMACY * WHAT A CONCEPT!

� A client called me yesterday to explain why he dropped off the radar since last we saw each other. In a tired and forlorn voice he went on to tell the sad story of how he found out that his wife was cheating on him.

Upon his first inkling several months ago, he began following her and checking up on her cell phone records. Then he hired a private investigator and had her followed, hoping to catch her in the act. Finally, he planted a recording device in her car and seemed somehow strangely satisfied that he now has in his possession recorded evidence of an actual erotic encounter between the two 'cheaters'.

Now, in the middle of an otherwise routine morni ng, I was in an all too familiar spot. Do I bite my tongue and just listen, realizing that he has not specifically called for my two cents on the matter? Or do I remind him that we have been talking about this very topic in almost every session approximately once a month, for the past six years? I slipped into listening mode, dropping back, waiting to see if a moment would arise when I could with laser precision, cut through his angst with some kind of logic. After all, he is a guy. I would have thought that logic would have some influence here. He continued to tell the story of his process of 'finding out'.

"But Brad" (not his real name) I finally interjected, "do you recall that you have been telling me that you have been feeling sexually constrained by your wife's demand for total monogamy?"

Brad often told me that he thought that if his wife caught him cheating, it would all be over and he'd be out the door in a hot flash.

"Oh yeah"... and with barely a pause the saga continued.

Now Brad, who is, BTW, the hottest of the hot and adorable clients, think Calvin Klein underwear model here, and nice, and present and sweet, etc. has been chatting me up, not aggressively, but at the same time making it crystal clear that he would like to have sex with me, for four of the six years he has been my client. And to be completely honest, within my work I am rarely tempted.... that's just not why I am there.... but Brad is one big exception. And although I have not gone there, I have to admit I have been seriously tempted.

So, I said carefully,

"Well, are you and Susan still sleeping in the same bed?"

"Yeah."

"Well, has the sex gotten hotter since all of this happened?"

"Well, yeah.."

I was fairly certain this would be the case. And then, the raw emotion finally boiled over the top and the shit hit the fan... so to speak.

"That's MY pussy!" "I had to nail it! I had to claim it !" It's MY pussy!"

And out came the roar of a wild and infuriated animal claiming his mate. A jungle cat spraying his territory. This was not the same voice, the same person that has wanted his own sexual freedom for the past six years. The one who sat with me session after session and acknowledged that the times are changing, and that we cannot really ever possess anyone's sexuality. The one who felt confined, constricted, and a bit angered by his wife's sense of morality. Just where did that Brad go? My attempt at logic was clearly not working here. And my oatmeal was getting cold. Damn, I hate cold oatmeal.

Brad and Susan are currently struggling though a painful loss of trust between them. And it had been building for years. It was inevitable. Brad wanted sexual freedom. Susan acted it out. And they are just victims of a relationship model that has not been honest.....and does not foster love between people, but actually sacr ifices love.

So, I recommended that they come in for a couples session and just get honest with one another...

"Honest?" "Really?" "Get really honest?" Yikes! It seemed almost out of the question. But as far as I can currently see, it's our only hope for bringing back trust and love.

And once we put all of our cards on the table, maybe then we can really begin to play a good game.

See the OneTantra blog: The Tyranny of the Wound of Betrayal

~~Jivana~~

~~www.TantricHealingTouch.com~~

~~Jivanak@...~~

~~; 480-614-3151~~

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#3849

From: Jivana Kennedy <Jivanak@...>
Date: Fri Dec 11, 2009 4:48 pm
Subject: HONESTY IN INTIMACY * WHAT A CONCEPT! From a blog post on Onetantra.com

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HONESTY IN INTIMACY * WHAT A CONCEPT!

Upon his first inkling several months ago, he began following her and checking up on her cell phone records. Then he hired a private investigator and had her followed, hoping to catch her in the act. Finally, he planted a recording device in her car and seemed somehow strangely satisfied that he now has in his possession recorded evidence of an actual erotic encounter between the two 'cheaters'.

Now, in the middle of an otherwise routine morning, I was in an all too familiar spot. Do I bite my tongue and just listen, realizing that he has not specifically called for my two cents on the matter? Or do I remind him that we have been talking about this very topic in almost every session approximately once a month, for the past six years? I slipped into listening mode, dropping back, waiting to see if a moment would arise when I could with laser precision, cut through his angst with some kind of logic. After all, he is a guy. I would have thought that logic would have some influence here. He continued to tell the story of his process of 'finding out'.

"But Brad" (not his real name) I finally interjected, "do you recall that you have been telling me that you have been feeling sexually constrained by your wife's demand for total monogamy?"

Brad often told me that he thought that if his wife caught him cheating, it would all be over and he'd be out the door in a hot flash.

"Oh yeah"... and with barely a pause the saga continued.

Now Brad, who is, BTW, the hottest of the hot and adorable clients, think Calvin Klein underwear model here, and nice, and present and sweet, etc. has been chatting me up, not aggressively, but at the same time making it crystal clear that he would like to have sex with me, for four of the six years he has been my client. And to be completely honest, within my work I am rarely tempted.... that's just not why I am there.... but Brad is one big exception. And although I have not gone there, I have to admit I have been seriously tempted.

So, I said carefully,

"Well, are you and Susan still sleeping in the same bed?"

"Yeah."

"Well, has the sex gotten hotter since all of this happened?"

"Well, yeah.."

I was fairly certain this would be the case. And then, the raw emotion finally boiled over the top and the shit hit the fan... so to speak.

"That's MY pussy!" "I had to nail it! I had to claim it !" It's MY pussy!"

And out came the roar of a wild and infuriated animal claiming his mate. A jungle cat spraying his territory. This was not the same voice, the same person that has wanted his own sexual freedom for the past six years. The one who sat with me session after session and acknowledged that the times are changing, and that we cannot really ever possess anyone's sexuality. The one who felt confined, constricted, and a bit angered by his wife's sense of morality. Just where did that Brad go? My attempt at logic was clearly not working here. And my oatmeal was getting cold. Damn, I hate cold oatmeal.

Brad and Susan are currently struggling though a painful loss of trust between them. And it had been building for years. It was inevitable. Brad wanted sexual freedom. Susan acted it out. And they are just victims of a relationship model that has not been honest.....and does not foster love between people, but actually sacrifices love.

So, I recommended that they come in for a couples session and just get honest with one another...

"Honest?" "Really?" "Get really honest?" Yikes! It seemed almost out of the question. But as far as I can currently see, it's our only hope for bringing back trust and love.

And once we put all of our cards on the table, maybe then we can really begin to play a good game.

See the OneTantra blog: The Tyranny of the Wound of Betrayal

Jivana

www.TantricHealingTouch.com

Jivanak@...

480-614-3151

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#3848

From: Edie Weinstein-Moser <bydivinedesign@...>
Date: Thu Dec 10, 2009 1:32 am
Subject: Live Your Peace Video is now LIVE! on you tube~

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Dear Friends:

Live Your Peace Movie just went live on youtube. A cast of 18 or so intrepid souls spent a Sunday afternoon together in conscious conversation about the ways in which we embody peace. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ejsvo4SWrZw

Check out the website as well. www.liveyourpeace.com

We see this getting out there world wide and with your help, we can do it!

Please share this with everyone you know and hop aboard the permanent peace train~ ♥

Hugging for peace~

Edie

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#3847

From: "reidmihalko" <reid@...>
Date: Fri Dec 4, 2009 10:44 am
Subject: Reid and Kamala launch their first poly DVD in time for the holidays...

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Dear Relationship and Sexuality Geeks!

I am VERY proud to announce the "unofficial," just-in-time-for-the-holidays,
Amazon.com launch of my latest exciting project, my first
polyamorous/relationship DVD in collaboration with dakini extraordinaire, Kamala
Devi of San Diego...

"Earning Your BLACKBET In Relationships!"

The official launch will happen in January in San Diego and San Francisco
(details to follow in a few weeks).

But first, more about what is contained in this funny, insightful, and VERY
educational DVD...

Discover the ten relationship lessons hidden within the acronym
B.L.A.C.K.B.E.L.T.S.!

(And discover why, on the DVD cover, Kamala and I are in bed with two ninjas!!!
Seriously. I'm not kidding.)

Check it out here: http://tinyurl.com/ReidsPolyDVDonAmazon

Whether you are a white belt to relationships or a romantic ninja with amazing
amounts of compersion, this DVD is packed full of powerfully accessible
relationship wisdom, pragmatic homework assignments (to apply what you've
learned), and lots of laughs and fun (to take the edge off of the sometimes
frustrating growing pains poly relationships can call forth)!

Please order it for that special someone(s) in your life, and help Kamala and I
celebrate our newest offering! Learn how to struggle less in your relationships,
love more deeply, and have fun while doing it!

And PLEASE write us an Amazon review when you get a chance!

For those of you who are Amazonian-geeksters ninjas yourselves, you can do
Kamala and I a HUGE favor -even if you don't order the DVD- by scrolling down
the page to the "Tags Customers Associate with This Product" section, and
clicking on/adding whatever tags you think should be associated with our DVD.
This will help less savvy poly folks and the poly-curious to find this product.

Thanks in advance, and let me know what you think of the DVD!

Big holiday hugs,
REiD

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#3846

From: "reidmihalko" <reid@...>
Date: Fri Dec 4, 2009 10:44 am
Subject: Ethical Slut interview with Dossie Easton uploaded on YouTube...

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Hey, everyone!

I finally edited and uploaded the remaining 7-segments for the Dossie Easton
interview I did earlier this year at San Francisco's Center for Sex and Culture.

You can view the entire 90-minute interview on my YouTube channel in bite-sized
5-to-10 minute chunks.

http://www.youtube.com/ReidAboutSex

Enjoy!

Love and light,
xxREiD

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#3845

From: "Crystal Morris" <cdmorris@...>
Date: Tue Nov 24, 2009 7:17 pm
Subject: Tantric Puja Dec 5, 7-9:30 Phoenix

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First Saturday Tantric Puja in Phoenix

Saturday Dec. 5, 7:00pm-9:30pm

Create conscious community and celebrate the joy of ecstatic living. A Puja is a living prayer, celebrating the Divine in us and each other. Using breath, movement, guided visualization, and conscious communication we will open our hearts and expand into ecstasy. We strive to create a safe, respectful, and comfortable environment for all to open and connect from the heart. Everyone is welcome to attend and no experience is needed. This event is open to individuals and couples. There is no nudity.

Please wear comfortable clothes and bring a water bottle.

Recommended donation $15-33

The Temple of One / Phoenix Goddess Temple

2728 N. 24th Street

Just south of Thomas Rd next to the canal

Phoenix, AZ 85008

Gatekeeper phone 602-956-0600

Event facilitated by Crystal Dawn Morris, a Certified SkyDancing Tantra Teacher. Crystal is known for her ability to create a safe space where magic unfolds. Her pujas, workshops and coaching sessions give people practical tools for ecstatic living.

Blessings,

Crystal Dawn Morris

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#3844

From: "Tantric_Magician" <Tantric_Magic@...>
Date: Wed Nov 11, 2009 12:34 am
Subject: Books by Outstanding Women

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We Love To Read!

And we love recommending books we feel can be helpful. These are two we wanted to share with you. Ophelia's Oracle is the book we wished we could have read as a young woman. Reclaiming Aphrodite is a masterful book about the journey to sexual wholeness.

Enjoy!

What if you knew you could help empower a girl in your life by giving her tools to increase her self-esteem? What if you could give her a book that would be enticing to her but could also bring the two of you closer together? What if you could receive lots of free bonus gifts if you bought the book today? You can, if you take action now!

Ophelia's Oracle is a delightful story of a twelve-year-old girl who explores her emerging sense of self . . .

When co-author Tina Proctor was 11 years old, a pet possum and a German shepherd dog were her companions for a year as she set out on a journey of self discovery. She was sure that she wanted to be a biologist when she grew up. As she grew a bit older, her self-esteem plummeted, and she was constantly dealing with negative feelings about how she looked, how others judged her, and why she just wasn't "cool." She didn't know how to deal with the anger that erupted�towards her parents, her friends, and the boys at school. There were times when she was so depressed, she wanted to run away.

Girls who are struggling with their identity and their bodies in a culture which often rewards beauty and sexuality, rather than strength and brains, will find a nurturing friend in Ophelia's Oracle. Not only is the fictional character, Ophelia, struggling as well, but she has the benefit of older women who share ancient feminine wisdom stories which offer guidance today.

By giving Ophelia's Oracle to a girl that you care about, you will be giving her tools to:

deal with anger so she doesn't hurt herself or others
have the confidence to explore new experiences
trust her intuition
respect the earth's creatures
create protection from people who are mean or bullying
cultivate communication with the adults in her life
connect with the sisterhood of women around the world

To order Ophelia's Oracle today and receive lots of exciting bonus gifts, go to this link now: www.opheliasoracle.com/booklaunch.html

Written by award-winning author, Donna DeNomme, and storyteller, Tina Proctor, in a voice which embraces the reader�a heartfelt sharing of ancient feminine wisdom and a timeless understanding� Ophelia's Oracle is the comfort and support that can welcome our girls to their fullest potential.

Reclaiming Aphrodite-The Journey to Sexual Wholeness

by Amrita Grace

Reclaiming Aphrodite delivers a powerful combination of personal storytelling, spiritual wisdom, and potent tools that will empower you into a deeper understanding of yourself as a spiritual sexual being. Amrita presents her unique, accesible experience and understanding of the healing journey from sexual abuse to sexual wholeness. Her approach is warm, compassionate, and inclusive.

Explore sexual healing through seven steps based on the chakras
Learn to embody true self love and compassion
Deepen your connection with exercises included in each chapter
Release negative emotions as they occur
Invite empowering relationships into your life

"Aphrodite's Journey is a wise, generous, unflinchingly honest map home to sexual wholeness � from someone who has quite obviously walked the journey herself. Amrita Grace shares with us a unique and magical blend of clear thinking, personal details, practical exercises, expansive resources, compassion and hope. If you or someone you love is struggling in the murky aftermath of sexual abuse, this book is a welcome beacon of light and sanity." David Cates, Daka Coach & respected leader in the sexual healing field.

Order Reclaiming Aphrodite now on our products page.

Amrita Grace is an Ambassador of the Divine Feminine Awakened Masculine Instutite, a Certified Spiritual Sexual Educator, and an Intimacy and Relationship Coach. She resides in Maui and Minnesota and travels the US teaching and offering healing sessions.

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